Category Archives: GRATITUDE

Celebration of Life

CEKEBRATION OF LIFE

That’s what it was called. A CELEBRATION OF LIFE! But then, that’s the way he lived.

LARRY “RUSTY” RUST

Was one of the most REAL men I’ve ever known. Pastor, Husband, Dad, Friend, Veteran, PaPa, Dune Buggy-er, Confidant, Camper. VW Bus Owner, Man of God, etc.etc.etc… BestFriend!!

We were entertained, we were comforted, we were challenged!

We were entertained. Because it was truly a Celebration of his life. His sons spoke with Wisdom and Humor. Because that’s the way HE was. Hilda greeted everyone with a smile and a hug as if we were all coming into her living room. Because that’s the way SHE is. We were Family, everyone of us. We gathered to honor him because he loved each of us with all he had.

We were consoled. Eric (his firstborn) shared: “Grief is the price we pay because of our ability to love.” We grieved, but not as those who have no hope. We love, not only because Larry was easy to love, but because he shared his heart with us and his was a heart of love.

We were challenged. His son Adam shared 3 reasons he wants to be like his Dad:
(If U closed Ur eyes, U could hear Larry’s voice as Adam spoke – I tried it)

1) Dad loved his wife
2) Dad loved his kids
3) Dad always affected other people in his life for the better

Adam closed his remarks with: When people are asked, “Do you know Adam Rust”? – He wants people to say: Oh, you mean, that guy who Loves his wife with a fervent intensity, Loves his kids with absolutely EVERYTHING he has to give, and ALWAYS has an impact for the better on everyone in his life he comes into contact with?

“Oh yeah, that guy – Adam Rust – the one who’s like his Dad. I know him.”

LARRY 3
That’s what I loved about my Dad.”

I was entertained. Surprisingly. Meeting again with “family” and friends from days long past made it special.  I was consoled because we were never intended to do grieving alone. I was challenged because I was reminded of a man who had a huge impact upon who I am today. I went home a little bit better than I was when I came. Larry had a way of doing that for me.

EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
That’s one of the things I loved about him.

#13/21 day challenge

SATURDAY GRATITUDES 2

Read Part 1 HERE.

HOW DID I GET FROM THERE TO HERE“?

I’ve written about this before, but one of the major reasons for the amount of GRATITUDE I have in my life happened in an AA meeting.

I had been becoming more and more aware of the inconsistency of my gratitude. On this particular Saturday morning, I was attending a 7:00 men’s meeting, along with about 80 others.

The “Chairperson” introduced himself by saying: “Hi, I’m Joe-Pete-Sam. I am addicted to ‘MORE‘”

I immediately knew exactly what he meant. And it gave me an answer to my Q. I was always waiting, intending to be grateful “tomorrow”, when I got “more”. Trouble is, THAT tomorrow seldom came. So I was seldom grateful.

An amazing thing happens when I sit in recovery meetings, either in AA or Celebrate Recovery and listen to others share their stories. I sometimes hear mine. In the ensuing days and weeks, I found myself not waiting until tomorrow to be grateful for what I had.

As I learned to be grateful for what I had – TODAY!! – It became more than I thought.

#12/21

GRATITUDE Is…

Gratitude is a Muscle
It Needs to be Exercised

Gratitude is a Journey
Not a Destination

Gratitude can be a Habit
Not Just a Wish

Gratitude is Contagious
Be a Carrier

Gratitude can Heal Ur Heart
But U Have to Let it In

 A cheerful heart is good medicine,
but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
(‭Proverbs‬ ‭17‬:‭22‬ NIV)

Saturday Gratitudes

In my one of my weekly recovery meetings, the leader thanks the participants by saying:
Gratitude, Jim” “Gratitude, Paul

At first, it sounded a bit strange, but it’s grown meaningful for me. I’m beginning to like it. I’m even grateful for it. So… “Gratitude, Ronnie!” It hasn’t become part of my speech, (yet) but I’m hanging around with him more’n more, so who knows.

Early last week, I told another friend (at yet another recovery meeting) that
I never expected my life to be as good as it is now!”
So, as I sit here in my morning chair with my CuppaCoffee,
I need to ask myself some Qs.     Like:

WHY?

WHAT HAPPENED?

WHAT CHANGED?

WHO CHANGED?

HOW DID I GET FROM THERE TO HERE?

IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN SHARE WITH OTHERS?

WAS IT A SUDDEN CHANGE OR A SERIES OF BABY STEPS?

How ’bout this one:

DID I GET GRATEFUL BECAUSE THINGS (PEOPLE) CHANGED OR
DID THINGS (PEOPLE) CHANGE BECAUSE I GOT GRATEFUL?

I shared with my friend KURT yesterday a phrase that RONNIE said:
“The asking of a GREAT Q is more important than the answering of a good one”

So… I want to start a series of Saturday Posts to explore some of these.

Ok, one more, this might be the GREAT one:

HOW DID GETTING GRATEFUL CHANGE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD?

I hope “we” can get a dialogue going. I’ll share my thoughts, (not to prove that I have all the answers) and “you” chime in with your thoughts and/or Qs.

See U next week! …If I can wait that long. In the meantime, whatcha thinkin’bout?

NAILED me!

TidBit o’Wisdom from my Daughter #37

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The other day my Daughter described my codependency as:

An addiction to being needed

She said I “keep finding people whom I use to fix that need in me

She NAILED me

O.U.C.H.

Thx, I needed that!

Do U have someone in Ur life that can tell U the things U need to hear?
Do U listen?

Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy
(‭Proverbs‬ ‭27‬:‭6‬ NLT)

Today’s New Word

Which comes first? Comparing or Complaining?

Lately, I’ve realized (again) just how deadly comparisons can be.
I had an epiphany a while back. (I always wanted one of those! lol)
I realized the majority (all?) of the complaining I do comes because I compare.
I compare how other people in my life treat me with how I think I deserve to be treated.
I compare my life with what I expected it to be by now – Or with what I still want it to be… someday, tomorrow. Or with what I think I remember how it USED to be. I compare
my intentions with the results I see in the lives of others. I compare what I KNOW
is inside me with what others allow me to see in their lives. I  compare… with
sometimes – usually – deadly results. So often, the end result of my
comparing drives me into a pit. Then, I open my mouth…

I coined a new word the other day

 “COMPLAIRING”
verb – The act of complaining because we have compared and fallen short.
noun – The art of verbalizing an inner turmoil

Not all comparisons turn out like this…

my life

How many of us can say: “My life did not go as I planned“?
How do we get to the point of saying “But That’s OK!”

As I’ve said in previous posts, COMPARISON is a thief of joy.

About 2 years ago, I realized how fleeting gratitude was for me
I had seasons of appreciating what and who was in my life, but
then the storm would come and it would all blow away like smoke
One day I listened as a guy shared: “Hi, I’m ‘Joe’, I’m addicted to MORE!

Ah Ha!” said I, “That’s me!” Whatever I have in my life, I want – “MORE!
When I compare today with yesterday and have MOREI’m grateful for it
But if I compare and find less, Woe is me and all those around me…

I have perfected the art of COMPLAIRING.
i sometimes think I have a master’s degree in it.
But I’m learning – HE is teaching me,- to CHOOSE to be GRATEFUL

Philipians 4:6-8